The Confidence Coach

Welcome!

Hi, thank you for joining me on my blog.  I'm Hetty de Haan, confidence coach to help anyone wanting to increae their confidence and build their self esteem. I'm a wife, mother of three and (I think) a pretty good and loyal friend.  If you want to know more about me take a look at my website www.lifecoachingservices.co.uk.  As a confidence coach it is important to me to show that I "walk the talk". Meaning that I actually put into practice what I share here and with my own coaching clients, and I have written an ebook on self esteem (available at Boost Your Self Esteem ). 

Are you in control?

Happy New Year!  Are you in control of what you are trying to change in your life?  If not, how do you really think that you are going to change things.  As Mary  Engelbreit  said "If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it".  Think about it.  If you try and change something that is not within your control then its not really going to change is it?  You can't for isntance change someone else's behaviour, or the way they react to something that you may have said, but you can change the way that you respond to that behaviour, therefore you are changing something that you are in control of.  Sometimes just realising that can be a huge weight off your mind.  I have a lot of clients coming to me at the moment wanting to change things in their lives but not knowing how to do it.  I have been called a catalyst before now.  I don't help people change, I help people realise how they can change. 

7 days to Confidence ecourse

Hi,  I've got some really exciting news today.  At last my 7 days to Confidence e-course is up and ready to launch.  Imagine, 7 days and supreme confidence is yours!  Wow, what would that be like?

You can get it by going to my website and clicking on the "Buy Now" button. It will cost you less than £2
per day for the whole course and the great thing is that you can apply the learnings to any situation that
you might find yourself in.

And as a bonus at the end of the course you get a free consultation so that you can really implement what
you have learned into your everyday life.

Help needed!

Hi

I need some help please.  I am in the process of writing a lot of new articles and really need to know where in your life your lack of confidence holds you back.  Is it your personal life.  Do you find it hard meeting new people? Walking into the pub on your own? or is your life affected more at work?  Have you got to make a presentation but cannot imagine anything worse?  perhaps you would like to be more proactive in meetings but don't dare speak up.  Whatever it is I would love to know.

If you sign up for my monthly newsletter you will automatically get a new tip on confidence every month, here's the link:  www.lifecoachingservices.co.uk

10 great ways to build self confidence

Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.

Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential

Continue reading "10 great ways to build self confidence" »

When all is said and done there is only one way for you to build confidence and that is to just do it. If you want to become more confident at riding a bike you must first learn to ride the bike and then with some more practice your confidence will grow in this area and not the other way round.

A great many people want to have the confidence before they attempt whatever it they want to achieve but unfortunately it doesn't and cannot work that way.

These type of people are the ones who rarely attempt anything new and therefore live quite an unfulfilled life. They are stuck in a mental paralysis to which there seems to be no escape.

So how do you escape from this mental paralysis? Well there are two ways that you can just do it. The first is to do whatever it is you're wanting to do despite your fear. You're going to make mistakes, you're going to be apprehensive but it's not the end of the world so who cares, just do it.

If the goal seems too big for you then chunk it down into small manageable pieces that you feel you can deal with. Attempt to do the easiest piece first to gain a little confidence to enable you to tackle the more daunting chunks.

Then second way to gain confidence is to tackle something unrelated to the task at hand. It must be something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable, Something that will push out your boundaries but not something that is so scary that it will paralyze you.

The aim of this is the confidence you gain from pushing your boundaries will permeate throughout the rest of your life improving your confidence on every level. This results in you attempting to do things that before you couldn't even bear to think about.

This in turn pushes your boundaries further and further. It's an upward spiral that will be very difficult to break as long you keep on doing things that make you feel a little uncomfortable.

Confidence is just like exercise, you go to the gym three time a week, every week and after a short while you begin to feel the benefit of the exercise. However if you stop for a few months you fitness level starts to decrease.

If you stop doing the things which make you feel uncomfortable you'll no longer be pushing those boundaries and after a while your comfort zone will start to shrink back to what it once was.

Remember, it doesn't matter how many tools you have in your mental toolbox for improving your level of confidence you cannot build it without first doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable.

 

Have a fabulous and confident month.

Wouldn't you just love to have all the tools that you need to hand to boost your confidence in 7 days?  Well, now you can!

Register for The Confidence Coach newsletter and you automatically get the free e-course over 7 days to boost your confidence.

Doesn't that sound great?  So, register no at www.lifecoachingservices.co.uk.

I've got some really exciting news today.  I am going to be running a Free Teleseminar on Boosting Your Self Esteem in conjunction with Marion Ryan of the New Coaches Business Network.

It's going to be packed full of fabulous tips that you can use immediately to boost your self esteem.  If you rate your self esteem at about a 2 on a scale of 1 - 10 then by the end of the call I can guarantee that you will be a 5.

It's on Wednesday February 6th at 8pm GMT

To register on the call go to: http://instantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=1800003 where you will find all the call in details that you need.

So, if you have any burning questions that you would like answered on self esteem and confidence let me know and I will answer them on the call.  If you can't actually be there then sign up and register and then you can listen to the call at your convenience.

I look forward to speaking to you on Wednesday 6th Feb 2008.

Happy New Year!  I have been really excited about this New Year for lots of reasons.  There are so many exciting things going on in my life right now, but I sort of lost my focus towards the end of the year due to overload and Christmas etc but then after Christmas I have been reflecting on what an amazing year I have had, what went well and what didn't, what I could improve this year and what I really should be cutting out of my life completely.

Happy Christmas to all past, present and future confidence seekers.

Well, it's nearly here.  That time of year that anyone who is lacking in confidence dreads.  Please don't let me make a fool of myself.  Please don't let me do something that makes me cringe.  Please let me not have to prove anything to my family.

Enjoy yourself and have fun.  Be proud of yourself and what you have achieved.  Smile! and have fun!

                                     HAPPY CHRISTMAS!

I have set up a Confidence Evaluation Quiz on my website. It's completely free and can really help you work out where in your life you might need some help.

Check out the quiz www.lifecoachingservices.co.uk

How to push your confidence higher than ever!

When all is said and done there is only one way for you to build confidence and that is to just do it. If you want to become more confident at riding a bike you must first learn to ride the bike and then with some more practice your confidence will grow in this area and not the other way round.

A great many people want to have the confidence before they attempt whatever it they want to achieve but unfortunately it doesn't and cannot work that way.

These type of people are the ones who rarely attempt anything new and therefore live quite an unfulfilled life. They are stuck in a mental paralysis to which there seems to be no escape.

So how do you escape from this mental paralysis? Well there are two ways that you can just do it. The first is to do whatever it is you're wanting to do despite your fear. You're going to make mistakes, you're going to be apprehensive but it's not the end of the world so who cares, just do it.

If the goal seems too big for you then chunk it down into small manageable pieces that you feel you can deal with. Attempt to do the easiest piece first to gain a little confidence to enable you to tackle the more daunting chunks.

Then second way to gain confidence is to tackle something unrelated to the task at hand. It must be something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable, Something that will push out your boundaries but not something that is so scary that it will paralyze you.

The aim of this is the confidence you gain from pushing your boundaries will permeate throughout the rest of your life improving your confidence on every level. This results in you attempting to do things that before you couldn't even bear to think about.

This in turn pushes your boundaries further and further. It's an upward spiral that will be very difficult to break as long you keep on doing things that make you feel a little uncomfortable.

Confidence is just like exercise, you go to the gym three time a week, every week and after a short while you begin to feel the benefit of the exercise. However if you stop for a few months you fitness level starts to decrease.

If you stop doing the things which make you feel uncomfortable you'll no longer be pushing those boundaries and after a while your comfort zone will start to shrink back to what it once was.

Remember, it doesn't matter how many tools you have in your mental toolbox for improving your level of confidence you cannot build it without first doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable.

 

Have a fabulous and confident month.

7 Days to Confidence e-course

Wouldn't you just love to have all the tools that you need to hand to boost your confidence in 7 days?  Well, now you can!

Register for The Confidence Coach newsletter and you automatically get the free e-course over 7 days to boost your confidence.

Doesn't that sound great?  So, register no at www.lifecoachingservices.co.uk.

F*ree Teleseminar to Boost Your Self Esteem

I've got some really exciting news today.  I am going to be running a Free Teleseminar on Boosting Your Self Esteem in conjunction with Marion Ryan of the New Coaches Business Network.

It's going to be packed full of fabulous tips that you can use immediately to boost your self esteem.  If you rate your self esteem at about a 2 on a scale of 1 - 10 then by the end of the call I can guarantee that you will be a 5.

It's on Wednesday February 6th at 8pm GMT

To register on the call go to: http://instantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=1800003 where you will find all the call in details that you need.

So, if you have any burning questions that you would like answered on self esteem and confidence let me know and I will answer them on the call.  If you can't actually be there then sign up and register and then you can listen to the call at your convenience.

I look forward to speaking to you on Wednesday 6th Feb 2008.

HAVE, DO AND BE

Happy New Year!  I have been really excited about this New Year for lots of reasons.  There are so many exciting things going on in my life right now, but I sort of lost my focus towards the end of the year due to overload and Christmas etc but then after Christmas I have been reflecting on what an amazing year I have had, what went well and what didn't, what I could improve this year and what I really should be cutting out of my life completely.

Happy Christmas!

Happy Christmas to all past, present and future confidence seekers.

Well, it's nearly here.  That time of year that anyone who is lacking in confidence dreads.  Please don't let me make a fool of myself.  Please don't let me do something that makes me cringe.  Please let me not have to prove anything to my family.

Enjoy yourself and have fun.  Be proud of yourself and what you have achieved.  Smile! and have fun!

                                     HAPPY CHRISTMAS!

Confidence Evaluation Quiz

I have set up a Confidence Evaluation Quiz on my website. It's completely free and can really help you work out where in your life you might need some help.

Check out the quiz www.lifecoachingservices.co.uk